The Quran, for example, counts the homes of parents and sons as the same, according to Al-Qurtubi’s commentary on the legal meaning of the verse: There is no offense for yourselves if you freely eat from your ‘own’ households (Surat Al-Nur, 24:61). And the Prophet, on him be peace, famously said to a man: ‘You and your wealth belong to your father” (Al-Musnad); and also: “The best food a man eats is that which is out of the man’s own earnings, and that of his son is from his own earnings” (Tirmidhi).
The household, dependency, and financial responsibility as criteria for paying Zakat to family
Muslim scholars disagree about the lawfulness of paying Zakat to family members who are a Zakat payer’s siblings, siblings of the Zakat payer’s parents, or other relatives. But three criteria about paying Zakat to these relations emerge among jurists:
Does the family member live with you in your household?
Is the family member a financial dependent of yours?
Does Islam legally bind you to the support the family member financially?
The first and second of these questions you can answer straightforwardly for yourself (with the reminder that all scholars consider parents, dependent children, and a man’s wife barred from receiving your direct Zakat payment).
The third question about Islam’s binding legal support of a family member will depend upon whether you follow a particular school of Islamic Law or are content with the independent ruling of other scholars.
If you adhere to the Hanbali school, its namesake’s position is that you are legally responsible to support anyone who can inherit from you, if that support is needed. One prominent Hanbali scholar, Ibn Qudama, holds that Ahmad ibn Hanbal’s predominant position was that you can pay Zakat to your relatives even if you have financial responsibility for them, excepting the agreed upon close relatives. This too is Abu Hanifa’s position.
Al-Shafi‘i adds grandparents and grandchildren in need to close relatives (parents, children, and a man’s own wife) whom you bear financial responsibility for.
Malik draws the circle of a Zakat payer’s financial responsibility tighter, at sons, until they reach puberty; daughters, until they marry; parents, and a man’s wife.
Note that none of the scholars of leading juristic schools in Islam (even Ahmad Ibn Hanbal, if you take Ibn Qudama’s position) prohibit sisters or brothers, or aunts or uncles in need of it from your Zakat.
In addition, a number of prominent Companions of the Prophet, on him be peace, and may Allah be pleased with them, and early scholars are cited supporting the superiority of giving sadaqah, charity, whether voluntary or obligatory (meaning Zakat) to relatives. They report the Prophet, on him be peace, saying: “Sadaqah to the needy is merely sadaqah, while it is both sadaqah and a kindness to kin when given to relatives,” meaning it is twice commendable in the eyes of God (Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidihi, Nasa’i, Ibn Majah). The scholars note this prophetic Text makes no distinction between compulsory and freewill offerings (the Quran uses the world ‘sadaqah’ both for voluntary charity and for obligatory Zakat), or between relatives one must support or others.
Ibn ‘Abbas reportedly said: “One should give Zakat to relatives in need”. Al-Hasan (the Prophet’s grandson) enthusiastically affirmed one’s right to give Zakat to a brother. Ibn Mas‘ud approved his wife’s right to give Zakat to orphans in her care. The early scholar known as Ibrahim permitted a woman to give Zakat to her sister. The scholar Dahhak said: “One’s poor relatives have priority in one’s Zakat over others”; and the celebrated Quran commentator Mujahid pointedly states: “One’s Zakat is not accepted if it is given to others when one has needy relatives (see Al-Amwal and Al-Musannaf for these quotes).
Can a wife pay her Zakat to her husband?